Christmas Survival Kit

There are many things I love about Christmas. My friend’s mum once gave me ‘The Snowman’ loo roll, and the kids still talk about it. What I don’t love is the pressure Christmas can create. But you can choose to see it differently – and I hope this guide helps!

I Believe

Watch out for fixed, rigid beliefs about how Christmas “should” be. They are a one-way ticket to disappointment – or worse, trying to control everything and everyone, which only leads to tension and arguments.

A Christmas Miracle?

If every Christmas someone behaves badly, is flaky, or gives socks AGAIN, don’t hope it will be different – make a change or come to terms with it. Acceptance isn’t approval, but it’s better than unrealistic expectations. If making a change feels anxiety-provoking, ask yourself: what story am I telling myself? Is it realistic or helpful?

What Floats Your Yuletide Log Boat?

The most liberating thing I ever did was ask my kids what they really enjoy about Christmas so we could focus on what we love and ditch the rest. Christmas Eve is now books and chocolate (a Scandi tradition) and watching Die Hard – yes, it is a Christmas movie. Not everyone’s dream, but we love it. Each year we check in: is this still what floats our yuletide boat?

Coping with the Christmas Blues

Some friends find Christmas very difficult. For them, long walks, time with the dog, or heading away from home makes it more nurturing. Accepting that you might feel sad or disappointed – but that you can cope – is key to not letting Christmas feel ruined.

Compare and Despair

If you find yourself envious of other people’s Christmas posts on social media, consider a festive break online. It’s a gift to yourself and a way to enjoy the season without comparison stress.

The Most Magical Day of the Year (It’s Just One Day)

Are you tying the success of Christmas to your self-worth or family’s “acceptability”? One day doesn’t erase the achievements of the past year. Take a step back and notice what really matters.

The Myth: ‘Kiera Meets Phil’

TV ads and magazines sell a fantasy. Kiera and Phil find love over mini pies – it’s fun, but not real. Decorations and entertaining inspiration are fine, but don’t let them dictate your entire day.

Go for Moments

Nothing is 100% good or 100% bad. The moments that mean the most – an unexpected card, a Christmas carol, neighbours’ homemade decorations, or mince pies – don’t cost much and don’t have to be perfect.

What Would the Wise Men Do?

Think about how you care for yourself all year. Eat mince pies if you like, but neglecting sleep, self-care, or downtime isn’t helpful. Schedule moments for yourself – a book, a chocolate, a quiet hour – to navigate the festive season better.

Solo Travellers

Spending Christmas alone can be a dream for some, but for others it’s not. A newly divorced client volunteered at a charity Christmas lunch and came away grateful and fulfilled. Decide what works for you – don’t be afraid to buck convention.

Avoid the Naughty List – Set a Budget

Unhelpful money attitudes can hurt at Christmas. Martin Lewis has excellent advice, but ask yourself: why do I feel I must overspend? Treating people is lovely, but the best Christmas memories aren’t about presents – they’re about connection, creativity, and joy.

And Finally – Festive Crackers

You can’t control everything, but you can choose how to view it. There’s humour to be found in most situations. If you can laugh when things go wrong, it’s easier to put them in

perspective. Ask yourself: will this matter in a week? Could I see the funny side?

Christmas is a fantastic opportunity to spend time with loved ones. However you choose to spend it, I wish you fun, relaxation, and a little sprinkling of peace.

Emergency Mental Health Support:For help at any time of year, visit your local A&E or call the Samaritans for free on 116 123.